Remain strong for your child

Sometimes your child will need to handle a situation all by herself/himself. As parents we tend to worry. Your child could be an adult and perhaps already married, but we still worry for them. Your child keeps telling you, "don't worry mum, don't worry dad,I can do it, I am big girl/boy now. Everything will be okay." In an situation when our grown child will be travelling alone from a long distance,and it likes a 23 hours journey from the US to Malaysia, it will surely make us as parents worried for the child's safety. And additionally feeling anxious in waiting for the child's arrival. These feelings is not unusual though. It is in fact very natural. Parents especially mothers have like a 'worry machine' in them. They take precautions in everything. Worrying could therefore, be a good thing. If worry leads parents to be very careful, concern, and think beyond a situation then, it is nothing bad about worrying. Nonetheless, parents should never be worried like a nuisance or break down until it turns a situation worse. Parents should appropriately control their worries; and avoid looking weak or shattered, because that behaviors could bring negative impact on your child. Your child would be sad, anxious or withdrawn, and avoid venturing into some challenging tasks if he/she fears of negative consequences on the part of the parents. This unproductive behavior is definitely not going to be good for the child's development. Therefore no matter how tough a situation is, it is crucial for parents to remain strong and hold themselves up so it could stimulate positive responses from the child. Strong Parents Raise Strong Children.

It has been such a long time I left this blog. Somehow today, I felt like dropping a line or two. My blog is mainly addressing parents with regards to their childrearing behavior. For today, I just wish to say...Parents always use positive approach in your parenting. It does not matter how old your child is. He or she can be 4 years, 14 years or 40 years old. What you say or do to them will have impact on them. So, if you wish your child to be good, you as parent be good first. A good parenting behavior will produce a good child outcome.