The Beginning of Parenting

When does parenting start? (Choose the best answer)
A) When you and your partner decide to become a parent
B) When you or your husband feel like having a child
C) When your child is conceived
D) The day you got married
E) After your child is born

What is your answer?

Yes. A is the best answer. When you and your partner decide to have a child and become a parent it is time for both of you to start understanding the processes that will evolve. Learn all about parenting before your child is conceived. Preparenting knowledge and readiness to become a parent will have profound advantages for you and your developing child.

Peranan dan Tanggungjawab Ibu Bapa

Ibu bapa mempunyai peranan dan tanggungjawab penting dalam mengasuh dan mendidik anak-anak. Bagi ibu bapa muslim, perkara ini dituntut untuk dilaksanakan mengikut kaedah Islam yang pastinya menjamin kesejahteraan anak di dunia dan akhirat. Setiap ibu bapa akan ditanya tentang tanggungjawab mereka di akhirat kelak sebagaimana sabda Rasulullah s.a.w, maksudnya:

Daripada Ibn Umar r.a. katanya, Rasulullah s.a.w. bersabda: Setiap orang daripada kamu adalah bertanggungjawab terhadap orang-orang yang di bawah jagaannya.

Maka ibu bapa sekalian marilah kita laksanakanlah tanggungjawab kita dengan pintar dan cemerlang. Semoga kita bersama keluarga bahagia di dunia dan akhirat.

Sains dan Seni Keibubapaan

Parenting is a science and an art --- Keibubapaan itu adalah satu sains dan seni. Apa yang membezakan di antara ibubapa yang berjaya dengan yang sebaliknya adalah sains dan seni keibubapaan yang dimiliki oleh ibubapa. Sains adalah ilmu dan tentunya dapat membantu ibubapa memahami dan mengasuh anak sesuai dengan keperluan dan tahap perkembangan anak. Seni mencantikkan tugas ibubapa dengan penuh adab dan nilai murni. Ibu atau bapa yang memiliki sains dan seni keibubapaan yang tinggi akan merangsang anak ke arah perkembangan optimum dan sama sekali tidak tergamak untuk mengabai/mendera anaknya atau membiarkan mereka menuju kegagalan dalam hidup.

Parenting is a science and an art

Parenting may sound like a trivial matter to some of us. In reality is it is a scientific matter, since we need knowledge to do our parenting job well. Science is knowledge therefore, parenting is a science. Science emphasizes on an organized and systematic way of studying or doing things. Studying parenting in such an approach will surely allow us to care and nurture our children most effectively. So, parents lets not miss those parenting classes anymore. We all need proper parenting education and training. An impromptu parenting lessons and trial and error kind of parenting behavior may not work well anymore in today’s world.

Often wonder why some parents are more successful than others? Yes, successful parents probably have better knowledge. But, mind you, knowledge is one thing; how we put that knowledge into practice is another. This is where the art of parenting comes in. Parenting is essentially an art. Knowledge will qualify us for the parenting job; however, it is the way we do the job, our style, attitude, creativity, beliefs and values we uphold, etc. that will determine our success in the parenting world. Do we interact appropriately with our kids? Do we talk nicely to them? Do we listen attentively to what they are saying? Do we pay attention to them during those proud moments? Can our kids rely on us? Do they enjoy being with us or rather be with their friends? Do we pull our kids towards us, or push them away? Answers to questions like these will helps us uncover our art of parenting.

'Good parent'

I belief all of us want to become 'good' parent. But, that is easier said than done. Whatmore if we have a difficult or a special child. There is no parenting manual to help us to do a 'good' job in this very important insan development task. As soon as we become parent we take the job naturally. Most of us never prepare ourselves with proper parenting knowledge and skills. We learn mostly from our own parents or observing others do the parenting job. In other words, we take the parenting job without any training or formal education. Whereas, we spent so many years of education and training to be competent in our present job. That explains why some of us are sometimes (most of the times?) better at work, interacting with co-workers than at home, interacting with our kids. So in order to become 'good' parents, we need to equip ourselves with knowledge and skills in parenting.

first time old timer

Assalamualaikum & hi, this is my first attempt at blogging. I thought I like to take this opportunity to communicate to parents out there about parenting. I am not claiming that I am the best parent in this world, but over the years as a researcher and lecturer my work focuses on why parent, parent the way they do and how parent behavior affect child well-being. As parents we are the 'input' to our child behavior (output). If we don't like the 'output', maybe there is(are) something wrong with our 'input'...then its time to check the 'input'.