Some parents forget that the way they socialized their children influenced the way the children turn out to be. Children spent most of their formative years (0-18) with their parents, thus the foundation of most of their developmental are shaped by their parents. So, if we do not like how our children (as child or adult) behaved, we do not just blame them, check how we have treated them. If we insult our child for something the we thought as what went wrong, we are not leading the child the positive behavior. Negative treatment will never produced positive outcome. Thus, we need to remember the socialization experienced of the child will shape the way the child behave. Remember we are the INPUT to our child's behavior; we don't like what we see, change our INPUT to positive input...our child will then demonstrate good OUTPUT. By the way, insulting our child (child/adult child) is the worst kind of parent-child interaction...we will push the child away from us instead of coming to us. So, watch what we say or do, the impact is huge on our child. Our job is to be a good parent, insyaAllah then our child (child/adult) will turn out to be good.